Quote of the Day
“The difference between school and life? In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.”
What did you learn today?
The Struggle That Shouldn’t Be
This topic, is a very touchy one, but it’s quite important to me. People just don’t seem to understand what I’m about to say, even though it’s extremely simple and straight forward.
You CANNOT change a person.
You see? Short and sweet, often ignored.
In relationships, people tend to look for what they want in a partner, only to learn that they aren’t quite what they thought them to be. I mean I understand completely, it’s always a learning process and it happens on a curve, I got it. You meet a person and you have to learn about each other and attempt to find common ground, done.
What irks me is that people tend to want to change, for better words “mold” their partners. Yes, you read correctly, MOLD. Sculptures are molded to what we want them right?
Let’s take that a step further: You meet a person and you really like what you seem, but something seems “off”, so you have to shape it according to your preferences. BINGO!
So if a lady has bad manners, you presume you can fix them by talking to her about them, right? You might even see a bad girl with a hint of potential, so you STILL talk to her, knowing that she isn’t good for you, no? Naturally, most would give a simple yes. It is not that easy though. Watch this
People change for others out of love and respect for that person.
As the old saying goes, “you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink”.
I can relate because I’ve been there and done that. It’s just a waste of time going back and forth between what you want them to be and what they actually are.
Don’t get me wrong, people DO change, they just have to want to. It’s so easy to understand, but once again, we often tend to just forget it.
Some people are open to change, others aren’t. Recognize who is and who isn’t, don’t give up, just try to understand, there could be some issues preventing your efforts.
If your efforts are in vain, it’s just water under the bridge and another lesson learned.
..Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
Who Are You?
Quite the question, isn’t it?
I believe we all have asked ourselves this question.
The script, we stare, it’s empty. Truly, it’s nothing more than improvisation, but for better clarity, we tend to write it down. You are asked to either draw a self-portrait or write about who you believe yourself to be. Casually, you begin to think, considering all of your memories past and present. Maybe a few stand out to form the words to an autobiography, or maybe those memories come with smaller images that allow you to piece together a portrait. Either way, you do think you have somewhat of an idea who you are.
A moment stirs within your brain, taking you back to a time where you had no worries. You asked yourself what you would like to be. Fast forward and you still might be asking yourself that question till this day.
So, you continue composing your works, it’s more of a tough task than originally believed to be. I think everyday is a chance to sneak a moment, possibly even an entire day to continue that work. Granted, that you do wake in the morning. Many times we walk past glass or mirrors and hope to catch a glimpse of who we are, but that’s only the beginning.
As agreed by most, you can only tell so much from appearance. The answer lies deep within, in the thought that truly brings about happiness. It could be anything, that is what makes the answer so special. We all have different answers of who we think we believe we are.
Few, are lucky enough to know who they are. Those that do, focus on helping others find that answer and begin to write the script progressively.
This will continue at a different time, look for your answer.
.. Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
Keep it REAL
You know what? Being real is so simple!!
It saves you a lot of time, drama, and headaches. I’m writing tonight because I’ve noticed that a lot of “daters” having become increasingly fake with each other. It’s almost as if people date with masks on now. I mean really, tell me how you REALLY feel.
First, you must be real with yourself before you can be real with others, it’s a fact. If you begin telling lies to yourself, you’ll just become an eventual habitual liar. For example, I’m not the biggest of guys, but I can’t go around telling myself I’m huge everyday, feel me? Sooner OR later, you’ll start to believe those lies and reality will set you back to groundzero.
It’s so much more easier to just be upfront and honest. You don’t have to make up a lie to be honest. Of course, the truth hurts sometimes, but lies expand, truths don’t. One lie could start an avalanche of lies, see John Edwards.
If you’re single, tell someone if you’re dating. If you’re with someone, don’t say you’re just dating. Truths eventually come to light.
Men if you don’t feel that you can be faithful, save yourself the busted windows and let her know. Ladies, if you’re trying to work it out with a guy, let the others know, he just may understand.
In a relationship, learn the art of staying true with yourselves and everyone else. If things aren’t alright, don’t pretend otherwise. It takes more to lie, then to address it and solve the problems. Problems are MEANT to occur, nothing will ever sail smoothly. People understand that others have flaws, it’s one of the many beauties to life. Embrace it and keep it real.
.. Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
A minor thought
“Yesterday is gone, tomorrow has not come,we only have today. Let us begin”.
One of my favorite quotes, if not, my most favorite of all-time. Read it, comprehend it, use it.
Value your sunrises and sunsets, in between showing the appreciation of both.
Thank you 
… Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
Quote of the Day
If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again.
When To Be A Gentleman and When Not To.
I bet you’re wondering… huh?
Why this topic? Well, it’s quite simple.
The other day one of my friends brought to my attention that I possess the ability to know when to be a gentleman and when to turn it absolutely off. I had to ponder for a moment, non in the literal sense of what he said, but whether it was a good thing or not.
I came to realize that this was indeed a very good thing..and you ask, “Why?”
Take a minute to step under my suspenders and ponder yourself.
When should YOU be a true gentleman in today’s society – everyday, every other day, never? Always such a tough question. I’ll try to make this as brief as possible, but that’d require me to be very blunt, so please excuse the following haha.
It is quite easier to get in between a woman’s legs than it is to get in between her ears in today’s society. Women will allow you penetrate their sexual emotions faster than you can their intellect out of fear. There are specific reason for that, but I’ll detail that at a later time.
Why should allow yourself to be a gentleman when it’s so easy to bypass intimacy? Think about it for a second.
I could LITERALLY stick my thumb out and garner sexual attention faster than I could trying to “get to know” a lady. Once again, it’s not all the ladies’ fault at all, but they are in contribution to the problem.
Should you allow yourself to be a gentleman when most females continually write good males off as “too good to be true”? It is largely believed that men are getting progressively worse, but in the words of Malcolm X – “society can best be gauged by the condition of women in that society”. I personally, believe in his sentiments because after all, women are the teachers of curent and future generations. Remember when I wrote about “The Under-appreciated Gentleman,” this is just a continuance of it. Chivalry is respected and recognized, but not readily available to every individual woman.
You see, you must take it on a case-by-case basis or you’ll quickly burn out of chivalrous gestures to women who’d rather take it physically. Women say they love gentleman, but are not properly equipped to receive one. Why? It is because the lack of intimacy has given up and coming men a pass to learn the patience and respect of women.
It comes full circle, but as you see, giving in one hand (literally) and taking in another.
With the lack of intimacy, there becomes a lack of gentlemen. It’s increasingly getting worse and for the gentlemen of today, you must learn how to accustom your methods to this.
Women, take your power to hone patience and run with it, please. Don’t allow us to question becoming a gentleman, force it.
..Until we meet again
- That Gentleman.
..tick tick, goes the clock
“Give me odorous at sunrise a garden of beautiful flowers where I can walk undisturbed.”
Life isn’t truly meant to be understood and never it will be completely understood, but that’s the beauty of it. Everyone has their own interpretation of life and can make of it what they want. Some turn the borderline insanity into a perception of individual growth, while others, they just happen to go through the motions. Another day, another sunrise, waiting on the what stress is going to come into your life on this day.
At times, you may feel as though the weight of the world is on YOUR shoulders. Understandably so, you feel as though you are making no progress and life, it’s just conspiring against you. It’s quite the disheartening feeling, but as we come to learn in life, it has its high’s and low’s. If we were to all be completely happy, wouldn’t it just a boring everyday ritual? We do have those who attempt to consciously smile 24/7, but sooner or later, it does get old.
Think about it.
So, while time is steadily ticking, you live without a care in the world… You walk by flowers and don’t even think to smell them. I believe there’s a quote that says, “wake up and smell the roses”. Within yourself, think of all the times you may have just glanced at something, happen to become intrigued, but never stopped because you were in a rush. A person opens up the blinds, revealing the sunlight and you react in a tone of utter disgust. The sun rises everyday, but the breaths you take can’t be counted on to feel your lungs the next morning. Leaves you with a feeling of regret, though we are often hear from some that we should live without regrets.
In every single day, the sun rises and the sun sets…somewhere. The vision of it’s beauty can surely be seen, but we seem to take it, as we do most things, for granted.
Are you really getting the most out of life that you possibly could? I must ask the question.
In times, like the ones we live in presently, where things aroud us are times of chaos and madness, it is quite the necessity to understand the magnitude of our society. The living is the present and your mistakes are the past. Enjoy every single wakin moment and never count on the next second to be there.
Find the beauty in your life and preserve the picture of it within the mental, it’s simple.
.. Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
Quote of the Day
Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable.
Cuff Season, the unspoken season.
You see it, but you’re scared to travel down the cold path alone.
An introduction to that time of the month…well, I mean “time of the year”
I bet you’re wondering what “Cuff Season” is, but it’s quite simple. We are currently a couple of weeks into it and the craze that it brings,it is quite hilarious. Give me some time to explain and I’ll have you understanding the comedy as well haha.
You know the time of the year where it gets cold and cuddling begins to increase at a rapid rate? – That’s only the beginning of cuff season.
Hormones are raging and people are wanting someone to call their own for the holidays. I was talking with a couple of my guys and made the statement, “people sure do go crazy over Christmas presents”. So what are YOU getting that loved one for the holidays? See, funny stuff.
It’s quite understood that people want someone to care about them during the holidays, but if you REALLY just look and think about it, it never fails. Take a seat in a Starbucks or walk around a crowded area, people are talking about wanting to be in a relationship and seeing all THEIR friends in relationships.
If you don’t catch yourself, you’ll get caught up in it too, but there’s always a time and place for everything. Don’t do it, RECONSIDER. Cuff Season does indeed have an ending period, where the spring/summer creeps up and people are going haywire just to get out and party again. The chains and leashes tend to loosen and fall off. People just have a tendency to want to have their options open, allowing them to be “single and ready to mingle”. Think about it for a second.
Cuff season goes along the same lines as the flu, it’s airborne(word of mouth) and it’s contagious. Personally, I’ve heard the “I want a boyfriend” statement so many times already and we haven’t gotten completely into the winter months yet. Everytime, I can only just give a brief sigh and continue to stay out the Black Friday-like chaos.
I’ve chosen to not even touch Cuff Season this year because all together, it’s one BIG headache. If you did indeed get a loved one this Cuff Season, I tip my hat to you because it could’ve been a relationship in the works. If you got a loved this season because you saw others doing it and felt alone, shame on you, REALLY. As the ice melts away and the flowers begin to bloom, the egos of those who were in relationships/flings seem to get a great boost and they feel rejuvenated for the upcoming months. Cuff Season does not offer immunity shots or any remedies except for sad love songs and quick pick-me-up’s. While people are rushing to get their holiday plans in gear and purchase gifts, others are scheming on how they’ll attract someone for the holidays. Two sides of the spectrum that seem to collide at an intersection of sorts.
Women take it a bit more serious than others and become completely upset about it, but I understand, trust me. It’s just something that’s natural and more often than not, unnoticed. Continue on with your normally scheduled companionship rituals, just remember that it’s Cuff Season and it DOES have an end to it.
I know, I know, you knew about it all along..but I did say it was unspoken, right?
.. Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
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